When we fall in love, we put everything else on hold and give our full attention to the person we're in love with. We develop a capacity for compassion and tenderness. Every decision we make is based on how we can best please them and ensure that they are content. We may lose sight of our own needs, but we will never lose sight of the needs of the beloved one. Although it's easy for us to love our family members, our spouses, our children, our friends, and anyone else we know, self love is difficult for us.
Many of us may find it extremely difficult to practice self-acceptance and self love. When I first heard the term "self-love," I thought it was a strange concept. Self-love is mistakenly interpreted as selfishness.; it refers to someone who is consumed with their own happiness at the expense of others. We don't learn how to accept and love ourselves in school and rarely at home. Because of this, if you don't love yourself, you'll put yourself last, be unappreciative, disrespectful, and unable to forgive yourself when it's due. Many of us have experienced something similar in the past. Although we can forgive others for their mistakes, we are extremely hard on ourselves when it comes to our own. Despite our best efforts, we are unable to be kind to ourselves. Even with others, we have the ability to be patient, but with ourselves, we lack the ability to wait. We go out of our way to make other people happy, but we have no idea what makes us happy in the first place. We give a lot of thought to other people's needs, but we don't give much thought to our own. It's a slap in the face.
This was supposed to be part of a post about self-love that I started writing a few days ago but never finished. Despite my interest in the subject, I couldn't think of anything else to say except that yesterday I had a bad experience that left me frustrated, unhappy, and inclined to place blame on myself. After some reflection, I realized why I had been so hard on myself. I had done nothing wrong, and it is normal for things not to go exactly as planned. If I had more self-acceptance, self-love, and trust in myself, would I feel this way about myself? No, I don't think so. We are kinder and more accepting of ourselves when we have enough self-love and self-acceptance. Even if the results aren't what we expected, we acknowledge, appreciate, and value everything we do. We are confident that we gave it our all, so we reward ourselves for our efforts. Given my conviction that I had done my best, I decided to thank myself for what I had accomplished thus far, give myself something nice, and take the day off. I plan to unwind and spend time with friends, who will help me make the most of the day. If you've been working hard for the past few days, I encourage you to do the same; simply give yourself a reward and acknowledge your accomplishments.
You can't expect anyone else to love you unless you first love yourself.
That's for sure! It makes sense to me. If we don't know how to love ourselves, how can we expect others to love us? Unless we know how to make ourselves happy, how can others make us happy or how can we make others happy? Self-love and self-worth aren't difficult to achieve, but if you don't know how to get there, just become your best friend and act accordingly. You'll know exactly how to treat and love yourself right away.
By taking care of yourself, you're putting yourself first on the path to self-love.
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